WAITING IS TOUGH

Have you ever told your friend you are on your way when, truly, you are yet to set out? If you have ever done so, you are not alone. It is an indication that you are well aware that people don’t like to wait, especially when the reason for your delay was unintended. Indeed, waiting is tough. I recall an occasion when I was billed to attend a social gathering with my old classmates. I reminisced the old times and I looked forward to the fun. I was ready ahead of time but had to wait for another classmate whom we were to attend together. For reasons not entirely due to my friend’s fault, minutes turned to hours, with repeated assurances from my friend that he was just a moment away. After a long time of waiting, the excitement I looked forward to waned and I almost lost the interest to go for the get together. Eventually my friend came and we journeyed to the event. Hard as I tried to enjoy every moment of fun the gathering offered, it was hard for me to forget the anxiety and disappointment that enveloped me while my wait lasted. My friend tried to make a joke of my mood but I doubt if he knew that he spoilt the fun for me, for all it was worth.

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WHAT IS A NIGERIAN WORTH? (3)

This is the third time I am asking this question but the more I ask, the more innocent lives are lost to avoidable deaths. We talk about death casually but I cannot but keep asking - what is the worth of an average Nigerian? Another nine (9) lives were lost in cold blood at Ojuelegba, Lagos penultimate Sunday. Yes, nine innocent lives were terminated by a fallen container in a system that keeps talking about the problem but does so little to solve the problem. Even to non-Nigerians, Ojuelegba is a renown centre, not only in Lagos but in Nigeria. Thanks to the late king of Afro Beats, the Abami Eda himself, Fela Anikulapo Kuti, when he sang 🎼for Ojuelegba 2x, moto dey come from east, moto dey come from west, moto dey come from north, moto dey come from south🎼 Motor is still coming from all the four cardinal points at Ojuelegba but containers are falling from the overhead bridge to sniff lives out of innocent Nigerians on regular basis. It is more like a ritual and I cannot but ask again, what is a Nigerian worth? Accidents do happen but what makes ours fearfully different is that we can predict our accidents. I had cause to pass through the scene of this accident barely two hours after it happened.

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WHAT IS A NIGER

This is the third time I am asking this question but the more I ask, the more innocent lives are lost to avoidable deaths. We talk about death casually but I cannot but keep asking - what is the worth of an average Nigerian? Another nine (9) lives were lost in cold blood at Ojuelegba, Lagos penultimate Sunday. Yes, nine innocent lives were terminated by a fallen container in a system that keeps talking about the problem but does so little to solve the problem. Even to non-Nigerians, Ojuelegba is a renown centre, not only in Lagos but in Nigeria. Thanks to the late king of Afro Beats, the Abami Eda himself, Fela Anikulapo Kuti, when he sang 🎼for Ojuelegba 2x, moto dey come from east, moto dey come from west, moto dey come from north, moto dey come from south🎼

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CLOSE THE DOOR GENTLY

We live in a mobile world where everything is happening at the speed of light. Innovation is catching up with those who are too stereotyped to be bothered. The upwardly mobile have an eye for the slightest opportunity and they waste no time to seize it for personal gains and self development. Whenever it is time for you to move to the next level, please close the door gently behind you.

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NIGERIA, WHERE THE POOR SUBSIDISES THE RICH

It is not too difficult to get a patriotic citizenry but it is difficult to ask a people to be patriotic in a country that further impoverishes the poor. Nigeria legitimately impoverishes the poor, unfortunately so. All of us are bearing the brunt of poor judgement by policy makers when they chase shadows and address the symptoms of a big problem, the cause of which they usually ignore. I attended a webinar organised by my state government last week and I challenged a decision of my state government to have concentrated the establishment of model schools in a particular location. These model schools were funded with resources that belong to all citizens of the state. The Commissioner for Education justified the decision when she said that the establishment of these model schools in particular locations, at the expense of other parts of the state, is demand driven. She was right, her reason was justifiable but I did not have the opportunity to tell the Honourable Commissioner that in advanced climes, planning is futuristic and not reactive.

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SELF INDULGENCE

There are things we take for granted, self indulgence is one of them. Sometimes you just feel like crossing your legs and indulge yourself to unwind. If you ignore such moments, it is at a great cost to your productivity and inner fulfillment. Productivity has a direct correlation with your state of mind. Your mind has a powerful influence on you that others don’t see. Jim Kerry opined that your soul is not contained in the limit of your body. Rather, your body is contained in the limitlessness of your soul. Let that sink in. If you collaborate with your mind, your time will be better spent and not wasted. Indulge yourself if you have to, just like me at this moment. Have a productive week.

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MAKE PEACE WITH YOURSELF

It may appear like a sermon but I am not about to preach. I have an unrepentant bias for leadership development and I know that you cannot lead if you are not at peace with yourself. You cannot be at peace with yourself if you are at war with others. Peace is not very difficult to make but it is also not as easy, particularly if you allow ego in your space. Nine out of ten times, the people you think wronged you do not think so. In fact, a good fraction of the nine believe that you wronged them. Either party could be wrong and the wrong party could be you. If you approach it from this angle you will see the need to listen to the reason behind the standpoint of the other party. Sometimes you would think that you are so right that you will not know when you slip to vendetta mode. Vengeance may taste sweet but vengeance is not the same as victory even though they share the same letter v. Some form of vengeance do not only destroy your target person, you can also be a victim of your vendetta mission.

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HOW NIGERIANS UNDERDEVELOPED NIGERIA

igeria started great, everything pointed in the right direction. The potentials were great and every Nigerian felt proud to be called a Nigerian. The whole world looked in the direction of the most promising black race with admiration. Today, we grapple with agitation for secession or outright emigration, amidst high level of insecurity. What went wrong? The commonest answer you get is that of leadership but I beseech you to tarry a while before you conclude. No one will argue that leadership is a big problem in Nigeria but leaders don’t drop from heaven. They are a product of the society we created for ourselves. As they say, a people deserve the leaders they get. • The elites in my country have the solution to the problem. They propound theories and draw references from across the world. They turn round to say that credible candidates cannot win election because they don’t have the money required to bankroll election. The elites abandon the electoral process and expect signs and wonders

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DON’T OUTWIT YOURSELF

It is supposed to be a buyers’ world but out of excitement or over assumption, salesmen sometimes usurp the place of buyers by selling to them what they think they need as against what the buyer truly wants. A few times the seller wins when he gets the buyer to buy more than he needs but sometimes the seller loses everything including what he has gained. It sounds confusing but I will explain.

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EMPOWER YOUR SPOUSE

Empower your spouse. I did not say empower your wife, lest the female gender think that this message is for men only. Read me well and please read again, empower your spouse. “E get why” (there is a reason for it). Generally speaking, money and position are the two commonest manifestations of power but there are many more essentials, rarely talked about, that are capable of rendering your money and position powerless. Whether position or money, either of the couple can have more in the contemporary world where the female gender is making waves in all spheres of human endeavour. Please, empower your spouse. Empowerment comes in various forms but one is more likely to think of financial empowerment anytime it is mentioned. We cannot deny it that money can do many things but it is a fact that money cannot do all things. It is the desire of every couple to have it all good in their chosen careers but it is normal when one does better than the other. If you are the more privileged, wisdom requires you to encourage and support your spouse to be up to speed in his/her career too, even if your earnings is more than sufficient to sustain the family. Sometimes, it is not about money but the sense of self worth from your spouse that s/he is also of great value.

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